Ministering to Couples To Improve Their Sex Life – Valentine’s Season
Text: 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (NIV)
“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Valentine’s season is a time to rekindle love, intimacy, and passion in marriage. But many couples struggle in their sex life due to neglect, emotional disconnection, or too much yabbing—complaining, nagging, arguing, or making excuses instead of focusing on intimacy.
Sex is not just a physical act; it is a divine covenant of love, unity, and pleasure in marriage.
1. Sex is God’s Gift to Marriage
- Many view sex as a mere physical need, but it is a God-ordained blessing for emotional, physical, and spiritual bonding (Genesis 2:24-25).
- It strengthens emotional intimacy, deepens connection, and protects against temptation.
- When neglected, it creates frustration, distance, and even vulnerability to external temptations.
2. Stop the Yabbing – Start Connecting
- Many couples spend more time arguing, blaming, or making excuses rather than investing in their intimacy.
- Yabbing and constant complaints kill attraction and drive your spouse away.
- Song of Solomon 7:10 – “I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me.”
- Instead of nagging, affirm your spouse, create an atmosphere of love, and initiate intimacy.
3. Address the Barriers to a Healthy Sex Life
- Emotional Disconnection: Unresolved conflicts create walls. Forgive and reconnect.
- Stress & Fatigue: Make time for rest, relaxation, and romance. A tired body can’t give its best.
- Lack of Attraction: Invest in personal grooming and emotional connection. Attraction is nurtured.
- Spiritual Neglect: Pray together for unity and passion in your marriage.
4. Make Love a Priority – Rekindle the Fire
- Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
- Wives, respect and affirm your husbands (Ephesians 5:33).
- Sex should never be used as a bargaining tool, punishment, or manipulation—it is a gift of love, not an obligation.
Conclusion:
This Valentine’s season, stop the yabbing and start loving! Prioritize your spouse, communicate openly, and make intimacy a priority.
Sex is not just an activity—it is a divine connection that strengthens marriage.
Prayer:
“Lord, help us remove every distraction and reconnect in love. Restore intimacy in our marriage and help us to cherish each other as You intended. Amen.”st God to do extraordinary things in our church, our families, and our community.
I’m Yours Truly
Andrew A Lloyds Adeleke
You can contact me
Pa@rccghouseofpraise.com
